About Allie Treen

How I Found My Way Back to Myself

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​That’s where I am now, but getting here took time.

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I grew up in California surrounded by redwoods. As a child I was curious, creative, and full of ideas. But in a home shaped by narcissistic abuse, I learned very early that vulnerability was not safe.

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So I adapted.

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I became the capable one. Calm, logical, endlessly reliable. I learned to navigate other people’s emotions, but it never felt safe to feel my own.

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Over time I became disconnected from myself. This pattern is common for women healing from narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, and trauma, but I didn’t know that then.

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I studied psychology and worked in counselling and social work. I saw how early survival patterns can affect a woman’s life; especially when chronic stress and trauma have shaped the nervous system.

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Understanding trauma helped me realise what had happened to me was not my fault.

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But knowing that still didn’t make me feel free.

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After years of therapy, I still felt so close to burnout, like a battery stuck at 1%. I realised I had changed so much in my thinking, but it was my body - not my logic - that was holding me back. My relationship with my body was disconnected and fraught. I had treated it poorly, just as I had been treated - and it was fighting back.

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Discovering somatic work was the turning point for me. It helped me change that relationship. Somatic coaching focuses on nervous system regulation and the body (emotions, physical sensations, gut feelings), not just the story of what happened (logic, justifications, explanations). 

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Slowly, things shifted.

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I started listening to what I actually felt and wanted, and I responded to my needs instead of judging or overriding them. I began to feel safe in my body; a new experience for me. I even started to want more for myself.

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I had spent my life changing and adapting so that I could be loved and accepted by others, hoping their validation would convince me that I was worthy. But, through somatic work I realised that it wasn’t the acceptance of others that I had needed, it was my own. I realised that self love is learned, not earned. I hadn’t needed to change to be worthy of it, I just had to learn to reconnect.

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Now I offer somatic coaching for women like me, who want to reconnect with themselves and heal after trauma, narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, or other damaging relationships that made them feel small. I also offer sounding board sessions for women who want direct support, clarity, and perspective around what they’re experiencing.

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If you’re recognising yourself in my story, know that this kind of change is possible for you too. When you reconnect with yourself, you can begin to build a life that feels more grounded, more free, and more your own.

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If you’d like to learn more, you can explore the sessions here.